What follows are the twelve main reasons that stop individuals like us from being happy. They’re not the only reasons, but they’re probably the biggest. Everyone of these you can tick off your list of what’s holding you back, will take you a BIG step closer to being a deliriously happier person.
Chapters
Not knowing what you want from life!
“Master, what follows in this short chapter? Practice it on a daily basis, and I promise your life and lifestyle will take on potential!”
Most of us begin our adult life with a head full of hazy dreams and clouded aspirations of what we think we want to achieve and become in life, and little else.
Obviously, we start out without plans on how to achieve them or have firm and fixed intentions of by when. For many individuals, this is as far as they ever get, as ambition and advancement require ongoing effort. For MOST individuals, blending in as part of the flock is far easier than living your life on your own terms, but nowhere near as rewarding.
Clarity is essential!
When you DON’T KNOW what you want from your life, you’ll understandably be uncertain which direction to head towards. You’ll also be confused about what SPECIFIC ACTION to work on getting you there. Worst of all, you’ll lack the conviction to start your ball rolling and to make it happen in your life! You’ll be treading water, getting nowhere, and slowly stagnating. Unfortunately, some individuals spend their whole life in this unhappy state.
But I have a fun solution.
My favourite quote: When you don’t know where you’re going in life, then ANY ROAD will get you there!
Does this simple truth sound familiar?
The majority of people you’ll encounter don’t really know what they want from life. SERIOUSLY! If they did, they wouldn’t be talking, but working at getting it. That’s why the majority of our population rarely achieve anything of note. Most people talk the talk, far better than they walk the walk! Sure, they’ll dispute this, and put a great act on to convince you otherwise. But they generally quote their dreams, rather than firm intentions.
Birds of a feather flock together.
Worse still, these may be the dreams of their friends and the flock they belong to? The sheep you see on the hillside all have the same desires, nice green grazing, and meeting a handsome young RAM, and avoiding mint source. It’s easier to adopt common desires of the flock than achieving individual desires and objectives of your own.
As our dreams formulate, they lack a clear plan of achievement and the intention of a firm deadline of exactly when they will be achieved. Those on course to achieve their objective will work at the advancement of this every day, even if it’s just reviewing and reminding themselves of their written plans. They stay focused, and constantly in motion.
Achieving your objective!
A fact of life is this: when you know with CLARITY what it is you WANT from life. Then nothing will hold you back and you’ll start working your way towards its achievement almost immediately. Lots of things will always get in the way. They ALWAYS DO. That’s life. However, because of your focus, you’ll become HIGHLY CREATIVE in learning to navigate your way around, and over these roadblocks, and anything which prevents you from achieving your objective.
So, the next time someone shares their goals and objectives with you. Ask them what they’re doing to achieve them RIGHT NOW, and at THIS MOMENT. If it’s nothing, or their answer is 100% plans. However convincing they may sound, it’s likely to still be a dream. It’s not yet had any life breathed into it for it to be called a true goal or an objective over which they have no doubt, or lack conviction in achieving.
OKAY, so tell me the solution!
Actually, it’s easier and more fun than you would ever have believed possible. But you, my friend, regardless of your age, colour, sex and present circumstances. Will have to be prepared to play FULL OUT and follow this simple wisdom to discover EXACTLY what it is you want to achieve in your life.
This is the starting point for happiness and success.
I suggest you begin with a notepad and pencil.
Go somewhere you can think without distraction. Then write three things you want from life. If there are more, that also’s fine. For now, however, I want you to continually priorities that list. We will constantly focus our attention and energy on JUST, the top three.
You can re-prioritise your list at any time. The objective of this exercise is to gain clarity on SPECIFICALLY what it is you want to achieve or become in your life. Rather than what you thought you wanted to become.
Some years ago, I mentored someone through this exact process. They had a BIG list of desires and they followed the process I am now sharing. The problem being, every time we spoke together, their top three objectives had changed.
They thought them carefully through as well as the reasons they wanted them, and they concluded they were not what they wanted after all. This is not unusual. Their eventual number one priority had started life in position thirteen in their list of life desires, before working its way up his prioritised list. It also took him more than a month to reach his conclusion. This is fine, and the EXACT REASON you need to take the exercise seriously.
Now we begin to build desire!
With your top three objectives prioritised, write in fine detail exactly WHY you want each of them? You need to be specific and truthful with yourself. Remember. these are your private notes and you’re not writing them to impress anyone else. There are no wrong answers here, only revealing ones.
Have fun with this simple process. Just knowing what it is you truly want will dramatically IMPROVE your life and levels of happiness and understanding. Go over the exact reasons they are in your top three desires list and continually improve them as much as you can, making them sound appealing and juicy. This is not a set and forget exercise you’ll complete in five minutes, or even five days. Your true desires and objectives will continue to adjust and advance as your life progresses. It’s ONGOING, and the more we think about something, the more likely we are to move towards its achievement! Read that bit again!
Then ask yourself another REALLY IMPORTANT question. What else will achieving? this objective allow me to do in my life? Now, this is not an easy question and will probably require you to think more deeply than you’ve ever thought before. It will also expand your potential horizons. This is an extremely cathartic process.
Thirty-five years after I started this process, I STILL go through my list of serious intentions and objectives regularly. I often read them daily, and first thing in the morning, so I start my day being laser focused. By doing this, I can create a strong success image of them in my mind, which I can recall at any time. As I achieve my MAIN objective, my second desire in my prioritised list becomes my first.
I’ll ALWAYS have goals and objectives in my life.
In a future post, or perhaps a special report, I’ll go to detail about the next step of the process which is the HOW to achieve them. First things first. Be crystal clear about what you want to achieve in your life!
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My job is slowly killing me!
…I hate it with true passion.
“The choice is yours. You can spend your days working to achieve the dreams of others. Or, you can work at your own dreams, and keep all the profit for yourself!”
Benefits, or the lack of them!
Every week, just so long as you put your 40 hours in, a guaranteed paycheck is coming your way! Well, until your company and boss doesn’t need you anymore, or they find someone better or cheaper to replace you, perhaps a machine!
If you remain employed, and if right now you’re, for example, thirty years old? Then, here in the UK, you ONLY have another THIRTY-SEVEN years before your retirement. Although, the retirement age may have advanced to the age of SEVENTY, or even SEVENTY–TWO years old before your pension kicks in. That, of course, is if you can AFFORD to retire! Okay, I’m being purposely negative, sarcastic and cynical! But not totally untruthful or unrealistic!
I hope I’ve SHOCKED you and provided you with some realistic food for SERIOUS consideration, which results in you taking positive action in a different direction?
Disliking your job and career, or being an employee and working for others is a COMMON cause of UNHAPPINESS, as you are not in control. Everyone wants the same big chunks which are: more time, more freedom, more money and MORE LIFE, and not many people enjoy being told what to do!
It’s a rare person who truly loves their work and career, or wouldn’t leave it the moment something better comes along.
I want to ask you a question?
Remember, play full out and be TRUTHFUL!
Let’s imagine that tomorrow you became a billionaire!
Consider this fact for a moment, and that now you can afford anything in life you desire. Would you still continue to do your job?
Obviously, that was a rhetorical question.
So let’s hypothetically consider doing something about replacing the job or career you dislike with something which is more fun, and definitely MORE reliable!
If you became a billionaire tomorrow, what exactly would you want to do with your time? I know that initially it would probably be nothing but travelling and seeing the world. But when you’ve seen it and begin to get bored. What would you want to do with your time, then?
This is an extremely important question?
So consider carefully, then write down your answers and expand them into something juicy! Whatever it is, this should become your BIG goal and objective in life.
For everyone, this exercise will be different, BUT I promise you, with an open mind and hard work, it is 100% achievable. Remember this, always starts by knowing exactly what you want!
For instance, if you love fishing? Start considering how you can generate your income from a fishing related action or activity?
If you enjoy travelling, how could you make this a viable proposition? If you enjoyed both travelling and fishing, how could you combine both activities?
There will be plenty of people already doing this who will become your role models. You just have to discover how to be DIFFERENT or HOW to do it better.
Then, believe me when I tell you that there is always a way! In fact, there are ALWAYS many ways to get from where you are right now to where you want to be in life.
As motivation to get you started making the big decisions, I’d like to give you a step-by-step example.
It’s a success story I know well, my story.
For me, the choice became easy!
I was in my late twenties and had spent a lot of time travelling, mucking around and learning to do things which only after I had mastered them, I realised I didn’t want to do. Does this is sound familiar?
Then, and by accident, I sort of fell into a job which I really enjoyed. It didn’t require much skill, and neither did it pay that much, but I enjoyed it.
What I DIDN’T enjoy was the people who I worked with. This being a dead-end minimum wage position, it attracted lots of negative no hopers. They thrived on beer, confrontation, and aggravating and getting under the skin of others around them.
Actually, I should be grateful to them. Without them, I could still be in the same position and doing the same thing. I stuck it out for a few years, hoping it would get better; it didn’t! So, I gave considerable effort to considering what I wanted from my life.
Money, of course, is important, but to me, it was never the MOST important thing. Having a career I enjoyed and that I look forward to performing it on a daily basis was my pinnacle desire. As I watched and looked for potential, the way I thought changed quite dramatically. Without immediately recognising it, I formulated two MASTER rules I wanted to lead my life by, which were, and still are.
1. I wanted a career which I loved and would do even if I didn’t get paid for doing it.
2. I didn’t want to trade my valuable time for money!
This second idea came later when I realise that an hourly rate always puts a limit to your earning capacity.
In the beginning, I didn’t so much know what I wanted to do as what I DIDN’T want to do. I’d had as much as I could take of the people who depress me and annoyed me on a daily basis, and I wanted out. It was time to take a chance, actually; it was more of a calculated risk.
We all have to start somewhere.
I decided that working for myself was a good starting point, and would be far more enjoyable than being told what to do by someone else. Opportunities are EVERYWHERE, and mine came from a close friend of the family who, extremely cheaply manufactured, a harmless multipurpose kitchen cleaner. If it was sold on the shelves of shops, I’m sure sales would have been poor as it had absolutely nothing going for it, including the packaging.
This was a product made for pitching!
In the hands of pitchman, or what is known as a demonstrator here in the UK. This inexpensive tub of cleaning paste became a WONDER PRODUCT which everyone wanted. I travelled hundred miles to watch an expert as he drew a crowd and demonstrated how their life would not be complete without the purchase of one tub, or even two of this wonder cleaner.
What he was really selling was himself and his entertaining performance.
Being a weird and confident character, I knew I could do the same, even though the initial thought of speaking up in front of a crowd scared me. I also realised that pitchman or demonstrators were few and far between, meaning, unlike my dead-end job, I would have little or no competition. I handed in my notice and left the same day. I was excited about getting started. The next day, I bought a pop-up picnic table and everything I needed to demonstrate and pitch the new wonder cleaner. The rest of the afternoon I practised in the privacy of my parents’ garage and felt extremely self-conscious doing so. I would ignite the handheld propane burner with a flourish and a growl. Then I would burn gravy browning onto a stainless steel plate. The noise and smell would certainly capture attention.
Armed with a small supply of the cleaner, the next day I went to a local market and was asked to pay just £3 for my little picnic table sized pitch. Going out on my own was probably the hardest thing I ever tried, but now I was here, I would do my best.
As potential customers passed, I started talking to myself and demonstrating the cleaner. I felt terrible and really wanted to go home and hide beneath the sheets of my bed. I watched intently my own presentation rather than dare make eye contact with anyone. However, when eventually I looked up, and there, to my surprise, was a small crowd of mainly mums and little old ladies who were smiling and interested in my product. So I went for a close to see who would purchase, and lots of hands shot in the air. As the day went on, I got better and better and by 2 o’clock I had to finish. Not because of the headache of overwhelm of doing something new. Rather, I’d SOLD OUT!
Feeling euphoric, I drove the short distance back home. I had already calculated my profit and costs, and in that quiet little marketplace, on a wet Tuesday morning, I had generated the equivalent of two and a half weeks’ net wages at my job. I don’t think I had ever felt so happy.
That was the beginning, and I realised I enjoyed entertaining and speaking that much I got good at it. I also learned and mastered pitching many other products, which generated me far higher profits. There was no looking back.
Please understand
As one door opens, it also opens other related doors and possibilities. A few months later, another chance meeting introduce me to a very amateur magician who told me how he made money from entertaining children. By this time, winter had arrived, and it was cold and wet outside. The opportunity to work inside and in the warm got my full attention, and I had already learned how to entertain. Now I just had to learn how to perform magic.
A few months later, I was generating an enviable income entertaining children and adults with magic and comedy. Now this was something I TRULY LOVED, and as a result, became very good at.
There always seemed to be something new I wanted to learn and progress to. It was the next step in my career and I had already mastered MANY income generating skills. Another chance idea came to me when I unfortunately witnessed a child get hit by a car when she ran into the road between parked cars.
It was horrifying, so horrifying. I wanted to become involved in preventing similar accidents from happening. Then, like a bolt from the blue, an idea hit me and I immediately knew I could use my newfound magic and entertainment skills as a vehicle to do this. By the start of the autumn school term, my presentation was ready, and I launched it at road safety departments across the UK.
It was a HUGE hit!
Within weeks, I was booked up for the entire year working in schools all across the country. It was wonderful and profitable. All this happened because I took a chance, a calculated risk, and it led me from one thing to another to another. Over the lifetime of the presentation, it was performed to more than one million five hundred thousand children in UK primary schools.
Entertainment and speaking to audiences has remained a part of my life until recently, when I retired and choose to concentrate on the written word without leaving the comfort of my home. This is something I enjoy and still have a passion for on a daily basis.
As I climbed the ladder of my own meagre success, and began living my life on my own terms, I learned how to write and promote myself, and sell things to others. I have always done a variety of things which I enjoy generating my income. None of them relied on me trading my time for money. Most of my writing gravitated towards helping others overcome hurdles in their life, and taking them closer to achieving their dreams.
Then I started writing for entertainment more seriously. I only have to write a book once, and I can sell it unlimited amounts of times. I only had to generate an email sequence once, and occasionally update and improve it, while many of my email sequence assets have been generating daily profits for almost 20 years. I never relied upon an hourly rate.
If you want to learn more about me, I enjoy writing about myself. Or see the books and short stories I have written you can do so by going to: https://kevinnairne.substack.com which is my personal ‘moans, groans and observations blog and newsletter.
I have not shared this information to impress you, but rather, to impress upon you opportunities are everywhere. ANYONE, including you could easily do what I have done, and probably far better.
I now do EXACTLY what I want to do, even though I’m retired, simply because I love doing it.
If your job makes you happy, then stick with it. If it doesn’t, I’ve just given you the simple solution and alternative starting point to lasting happiness.
Be BRAVE and prepared to make mistakes.
It’s the only way forward.
Stay focused and crystal-clear on what it is you want to achieve and become in life. There are a million and one income generating possibilities and actions which you could be doing quite quickly, even starting on a part-time basis.
Find your starting point and remain progressive.
The biggest question I’m asked is:
What if I make a mistake?
So what if you do?
I make lots of them, REGULARLY!
Mistakes are part of success and teach you many things if you are prepared to listen and learn.
REMEMBER THIS:
You can always change direction, but not when you’re standing still! Generate momentum in your life as soon as possible and watch the magic begin to happen.
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Decent jobs are as rare as chickens’s teeth!
“In the time it takes you to read and digest this simple wisdom. Across the globe there is a SMALL percentage of individuals with GREAT ATTITUDES who today will secure good jobs which were created especially for them. You’re about to learn to actions to join with this group!”
Don’t read what follows until you have read the previous section!
If you are absolutely certain that you don’t want to be your own boss, and you prefer to be the employment of somebody else, then this might help.
The truth is:
Most people do a job because they HAVE to, not because they WANT to, and there’s both the problem and the solution. Usually, but not always, the difference between those individuals with GOOD jobs, and the flock who have mundane ones. Is simply that they love and nurture their jobs. These are the minority and have earned their position and done everything possible to make themselves indispensable. If redundancy happened, they would be the last one on the list to be fired.
If you’re prepared to give that sort of commitment to your job and employer, by becoming the first to arrive, and the last to leave, and always go that extra mile. Just make sure you get noticed, and then perhaps you’ll start to climb the ladder to a better, higher paid job. You need to do everything quickly, and with a smile. You’ll need to become enthusiastic and someone where anything asked of them is NO PROBLEM, and done IMMEDIATELY! This is the type of great work ethic which gets noticed and rewarded.
Will you get noticed? It’s up to you to make sure that you do.
Applying for jobs!
Just because there isn’t a job advertised doesn’t mean there isn’t a job available! Most employers know the true value of a good worker. If you can prove you fall into this category, they may be happy to create a position for you. Please remember that there are always jobs available and waiting for someone with the RIGHT ATTITUDE. So, be prepared to prove that’s you.
Try this!
Send a written application for the type of position you are looking for. Then tell them that you’re so confident they would want to employ you that you’re prepared to put your reputation on the line. Tell them that they only have to pay AFTER they’ve become HAPPY, or even DELIGHTED with your services. This shows true confidence.
Think about this, usually, everyone is asking to be GIVEN something! Then you come along and offer to GIVE something! Do this right and most employers will find it very tempting proposition.
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My relationship is driving us both mad!
…I feel most sorry for our children!
“Weather you’re straight, gay, or something else. The rules of engagement for creating a HAPPY relationship remain the same. The simple insights below may help to dramatically improve your interactions and respect for one another!”
Let’s see if I can help you sort this out.
It may be EASIER than you think.
I’m about to ask you a few simple questions.
I want you to write the answers down in fine detail rather than just thinking them out, because it shows commitment.
Do you want to improve your relationship?
If so, leave your ego in the fridge!
There are no right or wrong answers, and no one is judging you. Thinking such things out on paper is much easier than in your head.
Q1: Why did you first get together?
Q2: What was the initial attraction?
Q3: Is what you have now not worth saving?
I would spend some time expanding on your written explanations and being truthful with yourself.
If there are NO children involved, you are free to walk away and start again. If there is a third party involved, then this will say a lot about you or your present partner. If you both decide you want to stay together. Then this is the time to involve a professional counsellor who will help you more than I can.
If there are children involved, you have an OBLIGATION!
Whoever is at fault, it’s NOT the child or children, who are generally the ones that come off worst. You brought them into this world, and now you have a RESPONSIBILITY. You and your other half need to stop being CHILDISH and both agree your offspring are now your primary focus until they reach the age of independence.
Learning to live together happily is now your big focus. If you’re prepared to go off and leave your other half to do the lion share, and claiming support of the welfare, it highlights you in your true light!
Taking responsibility and learning to become good friends and generate a happy environment for the children you spawned is the right action in every case. It’s seriously not that difficult, and anyone can do it.
The rights and wrongs of who should look after your children are very simple. Take responsibility.
The rules of relationships
There are very few couples that never argue or have disagreements!
You are likely to have many dissimilarities.
My wife and I are very un-alike, and for that reason, I have to be cautious. Presumably, she treats me in the same way. In the morning she is at her most moody, irritable and dangerous. I can almost smell it, and then I see it in her body language. These are NOT good times to have a coffee together or for discussion. So I move out of her way and give her time to come back to the land of the living. If you’re an understanding and considerate partner, you may have to do something similar.
Always lead by example! It doesn’t matter who is wrong and who is right. It’s about getting along together and creating a good environment.
Avoid CONFLICT!
Most important of all is how you respond.
Please notice I said RESPOND, and not REACT!
To avoid conflict and bad feelings, always take a moment to consider the situation and respond accordingly in a civil manner. If you allow yourself to react, it’s likely to be more explosive escalating the developing situation.
It’s surprising how kindness and understanding improves the situation, even when you know you’re right. Proving your partner wrong, and highlighting their indiscretion, will always cause bad feeling, and potential repercussions.
My simple advice is to avoid conflict. Walk away if you have to. Tell them you need to cool down and think it over before speaking further about it. This gives them the time to do exactly the same thing.
Show respect, and that you’re prepared to actively listen carefully to the point they’re trying to make. Rather than shoving yours down their throat. Such simple positive actions which lead to happier relationships.
Be quick to apologise when you’re wrong, sometimes even when you’re right, just to defuse the situation. Your partner will come to appreciate this. My wife is fiery, but it doesn’t mean I have to be that way also!
I have learned to be bigger than that and rise above it!
When I was a child, I was always getting into fights and arguments because there was a time also when I was fiery, and refused to stand down. Then my mother told me to think carefully about my actions. She said, any fool can scream, shout and start fights! Strangely enough, when I took the time to look and consider this observation. I noticed these were the precise actions of most idiots and fools of life.
Just make sure that you’re not one of them.
As a race, humans are complex characters. Having everything your own way is the description of a bachelor lifestyle. By contrast, when you live as a couple, you have to be prepared to embrace COMPROMISE. Become a better person than you are right now.
Where your life partner is concerned, lead by example, and prepared to help them as much as possible. Hopefully, your actions will be noticed, and they will do the same for you, which leads to a mainly happy relationship.
If, however, children are not involved, and your relationship or partner constantly makes you unhappy. Then it’s time for discussions and a rethink to discover how to correct and iron out such domestic kinks.
Please remember:
No relationship better than a bad relationship!
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Fear and worry are your worst enemy!
“There is a HUGE misconception that our lives are mapped out, per-ordained and unchangeable. This is rubbish! The way in which you DECIDE to think, and what you choose BELIEVE, along with your level of ACTION, will dictate your outcomes and levels of success in life. If you want a better life, begin by improving your thinking process!”
This is a big subject!
Let me share something which may help your understanding, and result in you controlling what you think about. If you leave your subconscious mind unchecked to place thoughts and imagery in the theatre of your mind. I promise it will gravitate and introduce you to many dark and fearful forces on a regular basis.
Fears and worry will follow and will dramatically inhibit your ability to be happy.
This is human nature and happens to everyone who doesn’t learn and practice self mind control.
I have just described an undisciplined mind.
By contrast, a disciplined mind thinks about what it chooses and what is beneficial to make them happy!
Do you realise that we move towards the things we think about the most? It’s true we do! So, it stands to reason we should be thinking positive thoughts about the things we want to achieve in life.
Allowing dark and negative thoughts to dwell in your mind can be compared to praying for bad news! When you get into the habit of expecting the worst, you’ll probably NOT be disappointed!
How to stop worrying!
Change what you can’t accept! Then accept what you can’t change!
So what I mean by that?
This is probably the most obvious example:
We are all going to die one day. I can do nothing about it. Though I may be able to change the day and extend my life somewhat, one day it’ll happen. It’s the same for all of us. I could spend my life worrying about it, which would probably shorten my life significantly. Or, I can choose not to think about it and accept its eventuality and be happy for the life I have enjoyed, or am still to enjoy.
Some things should NOT be dwelt upon.
If you can’t change or alter the course of certain destiny, then accepted it with courage and good grace, and put it out of your mind. Your life is here to be lived and enjoyed, not suffered and worried over.
By contrast, most things in life you will have discretion over. You will be able to change so many things if you truly have the desire to do so.
Bad thoughts!
It’s human nature that negative thoughts have a habit of slipping in to your mind unseen, and usually arrive through the back door. If they’re left unchecked, they will grow. This is called the wedge of doubt and is probably the most destructive of your mental self sabotaged toolkit.
So what can you do about it?
Simple, in your mind’s eye, I want you to develop a success picture of yourself in a happy situation. It may be something which has already happened, or something you’re presently working towards achieving.
We all have AMAZING mental abilities to develop such photos or videos, and can even compose and hear a full orchestra playing in our mind. Whatever success image you decide to create, make it BIG, colourful, and very positive. Then associate yourself with it, see yourself in the picture smiling, happy and successful.
Practice bringing your success image to mind regularly! Play with it and constantly improve it. Have as many as you wish and spend time thinking and dreaming about them. These are the fantasies which you want to make your reality.
Then, when a negative image intrudes, which unchecked would generate worry. Immediately replace it with your success image, and smile! Dwell on it for a while and remaining positive. If the negative image returns, do the same thing again. Every time you switch the image in this way, you become more expert at doing so.
You DECIDE what you think about!
This simple technique may take you a little time to practice and master, but puts you in charge of your own mind. Use this technique regularly because mastering what you think about would definitely improve your levels of happiness and lifestyle.
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Good sleep is ESSENTIAL!
“My mom was a wise lady and told me I should always buy the best shoes and comfiest bed and chairs. Because if I wasn’t standing up, I’d be lying or sitting down. We spend on average one third of our lives sleeping, which highlights the importance of good sleep!”
What follows is simple advice for getting a good night’s sleep, and you may need to adapt and alter these tips to best suit your own sleeping patterns.
If you have any underlying sleep or health conditions, you should consult your doctor or a medical professional.
Sleeping well is very much a catch-22 situation!
Take a moment to consider these twelve major causes of unhappiness in the first chapter. The more of them you can master, the better your sleep will become. Sleeping well is part of a bigger list of things which you need to accomplish, and may be presently stopping you from being happy.
Everyone suffers from insomnia occasionally and handle it differently.
When it comes knocking on my door, rather than lying in bed, I get up and read or write. I do something productive until I feel my eyelids becoming heavy again. It’s different for everyone of us. Usually, after an hour so, I’m almost falling out of my chair I have become so tired. Problem solved.
Problems and bad thoughts!
In the previous chapter, I shared the technique to overcome this very problem, so please go back and read it. Your slumber hours should be full of pleasant thoughts and fantasies. That’s what dreams are.
Does this only happen to me?
I am keen on cheese, especially strong cheeses such as Stilton. However, I have discovered that on more than one occasion, eating cheese too late in the evening generates WEIRD dreams. Those which border nightmares and leave me exhausted when I wake up. I am not sure if other people have experienced similar.
Tips for getting a good night’s sleep
Make your bedroom a pleasant and tranquil environment. The word PLEASANT comes down to personal taste and interpretation, so let’s try comforting. Personally, I like a room which is dark, the darker the better, and I like a flow of air.
When I lived at home with my parents, somehow a large pendulum clock ended up in my room, which ticked away merrily and loudly, constantly marking each second as it was ticked off the remaining length of my life. Despite that, its regularity was a comforting sound in my slumber. I never gave it much thought until I moved away from home and missed it dreadfully.
Sleeping patterns
Are you still tired when you wake up in the morning?
I always used to be (no jokes please!) Then I discovered I was working against my natural body clock, and the routine which was best for me.
Because of a bad cold, I began going to bed at 8 pm rather than midnight or in the early hours. Immediately, I noticed that the quality of my sleep was so much deeper, and after eight hours of slumber, I woke refreshed and ready to start work.
Hm, I had discovered I was a morning person rather than an owl. My wife and daughter are exactly the opposite, and will stay up chatting until the early hours. Then, given the opportunity, they lay in bed till lunchtime. I am not being judgemental, or saying my way is best. I’m only highlighting that some individuals may not be taking advantage of their natural sleeping patterns. Experiment.
Getting exercise
My wife also has the occasional trouble in sleeping. For her, the solution is completely different. Luckily, our children are both world-class athletes, and so we have a personal gym. If the night before her sleep was poor. Then the following evening before going to bed, she goes to the gym and works out. She is brutal with herself and comes back dripping in sweat before taking a hot shower. For my wife, this usually does the trick.
A hot bath.
I love a long and leisurely steaming hot bath with candles and listening to classical music. For me, this is a great solution to relax my body ready for sleep.
Birdsong
When I got my first smartphone, which was about ten years after everybody else, I discovered Amazon music! I’d long heard that certain sounds will help you sleep, one of the main being birdsong. I tried it and found it to be very nice. I can speak from first-hand experience that the sound of waves rolling onto the beach can be extremely relaxing.
For eight months of the year I live in our beach side home in the Philippines, and most nights while I’m sleeping I can hear the sound of the sea, and waves lapping onto the beach as I’m caressed by warm tropical breeze.
The sound of waves rolling onto the beach does it for me every time. So, if you have a smart phone and Amazon music, give it a try.
In our UK home, and as I am only there for four months in the summer, I always keep the windows open and encourage the flow of air. I know from experience without it my sleep is nowhere near as good. I also attempt to keep the temperature comfortable and constant, and have found the help of an oscillating fan useful.
No high tech!
SERIOUSLY, this is your retreat of tranquillity. The last thing you want is an active mind, so leave TVs and computers out of the bedroom. Most importantly of all, leave your smart phone in a different room and SWITCHED OFF.
Life beyond a smart phone.
We have reached an age of over communication, and many people are addicted to social media chat devices. Where at one time they may have watched a documentary, read a book, or engaging conversation, or even just thought and contemplated. Now, many are glued to their smart phones and watching the business of others unfold every spare moment they have. It’s neither healthy, nor is it productive, and certainly hearing emails and text messages arriving why you’re trying to sleep is counter-productive to achieving a solid eight hours of slumber.
Stimulants
I love coffee, especially freshly percolated black coffee, and can think of nothing nicer in the morning. Later in the day, I used to drink cup after cup of instant coffee or tea, gallons of the stuff. Unfortunately, it’s packed with caffeine which inhibits sleep. I have learned from experience if I don’t want to spend many hours lying awake. Or experience a poor quality of sleep, forget the coffee! Sleep experts advise you should stay away from caffeine for twelve hours before trying to sleep.
Alcohol
Alcohol and I used to be good friends, but not for a few years.
When I discovered I was a morning person, and I enjoyed going to bed at 8 pm, the big drawback was I didn’t have much time to drink. But the compensations immediately became obvious, as soon realised that although drink may help fall asleep, it doesn’t help the quality of your sleep. I also noticed that without alcohol the night before; I was far more alert and productive when I awoke in the morning. I’m not trying to preach to you, but share from my own experiences that alcohol makes you far less productive, and damages your depth of sleep.
Staying hydrated!
Too much water or drink in the evening means I have to visit the toilet, perhaps several times during the night, breaking my sleep. However, even worse is that being dehydrated makes me shlumpy (dull and lifeless) and sometimes gives me a splitting headache.
The solution is to find a sensible balance and I now keep a glass of water next to my bed. Now, I seem to have developed the habit of taking sips of it without regaining full consciousness. This is my way of staying hydrated.
These few tips are important to me and help me get a good night’s sleep.
How long should you see for?
I have always been a good sleeper and feel best after eight or nine hours of sleep. However, I have noticed that in the tropics I sleep far better, and far longer than I do during the summer months in Europe. Perhaps this is something to do with me getting older?
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There is always too much month left at the end of my money.
“You often hear people justify their lifestyle by saying that money isn’t everything. However, when you don’t have enough, then it becomes something, and to some individuals, EVERYTHING!”
This is quite a common problem!
I allowed myself to get into debt on one occasion in my youth. I have never been so miserable. Happiness and debt do not make good bedfellows!
Money management!
I can think of four main possibilities why you find yourself short of money. Let’s address them one at a time, because there is a solution to each.
Can’t get a job!
I’m sure in some countries, as well as parts of the UK, jobs, or the type of jobs which you want to secure are in short supply? Meaning you have to work harder, wait longer, or travel further to secure one, especially a good one. What I have noticed is that those people who have jobs also get offered jobs more regularly than those who don’t!
SERIOUSLY! As an employer, I would always favour offering employment to someone who is already employed. Their job proves they have an existing track record and work ethic.
If this is your first job, and you’re struggling. Perhaps it would be a good idea to take any job, work at it, do your best, while applying for other jobs. Failing that, give your time for voluntary work to help the community or a charity. Something to gain experience in other areas and expand your horizons. This would certainly earn you some points in job interviews and highlight your work ethic and enthusiasm.
Unfortunately, some individuals have a LAZY ATTITUDE and no real interest in working. By contrast, they are happy leeching off the welfare state, and the taxes of the working population. Now, I am certain as you’ve arrived at this site, this is not you. However, we want to distance ourselves from such individuals, especially when applying for jobs.
Gambling, drugs, and alcohol
If it’s one of these three dark demons which is swallowing your money and leaves you short each month. The solution is simple: forget cutting down, just give them up. Now I know this is often easier said than done. But there are specialist professionals out there just waiting to help you, and I suggest you approach one of those as soon as possible.
Overspending and extravagance
Now this is far more likely culprit, and I have known a variety of individuals who are shopaholics, and got themselves into debt. There is so much temptation to buy now, pay later, and then you become the bad guy when you have problems. Around the millennium, I had a business acquaintance who generated well in excess of £160k in net annual income. WOW, this guy had it made!
Despite his luxury lifestyle paycheck, he was ALWAYS BROKE and never had enough money. He asked me for loans on a number of occasions and was extravagant and lived up to his income or WAY beyond. After living a dream lifestyle for many years, his industry went into recession, and he lost his job. It was like watching a stack of cards collapse. Almost overnight, he lost everything, his house, his marriage, all of his possessions, a whole train of good-time friends, and he ended up bankrupt for nearly half a million pounds. Twenty years later, he still hasn’t repaid any of his debts. Now he lives alone in a council flat, and still occasionally he contacts me to ask to borrow money. He must think I fell off a Christmas tree!
You KNOW if you, or your significant other, are spending more than you’re earning, and if you are?
This you can do something about, and you can’t start too soon!
Forget credit and buy now pay later because that’s the fastest way of going broke and getting yourself into worry and a bad mess. Start planning and budgeting immediately. Look for ways of cutting back, saving money. There are hundreds of ways of doing this, and a little bit here and a little bit there often adds up to a lot, especially over time. If you want to be happy, plan on living on FAR LESS than what you earn. You also need to save something for a rainy day, rather than spending it all.
You’re on the breadline
If you are, I TRULY sympathise with you and understand that there is rarely a quick fix solution. Especially if you’re a single parent provider.
I would advise you to look at the big picture and long-term, because the past NEVER equal the future. When you’re down and out, then the only route available is up. Consider all possibilities, retraining and gaining new skills. Seriously consider becoming your own boss, even if it’s on a part-time basis. With the popularity of the Internet, there are many ways of generating ongoing income from the comfort of your own home with a minimum of expense.
The fact is, no one is going to upgrade your lifestyle and present circumstances in life. This you’re going to have to do for yourself. However, I think you’ll find it easier and far more fun than you ever believed possible.
Begin by upgrading your thinking, your beliefs, and levels of confidence in your ability, and get started and do something, ANYTHING, just get started.
Perhaps this will motivate you?
You may already know I live in the UK for the four summer months. For the cooler, more unpredictable months of the year, I live in the tropics, in the south Visayan region of the Philippines. In fact, I live in a whale shark watching area known as Oslob in Cebu.
I’m not telling you this to impress upon you how fortunate I am, but for a far more interesting reason.
Have you ever heard the term digital nomad?
These are people of no fixed abode, who choose to travel to exotic countries and locations while generating their income from their computers. They work for part of the day, and play for the rest.
Now, and after the global pandemic, these digital nomads are more common than mosquitoes surrounding the area in which I live. They come here for the whale sharks, and because it is a beautiful and very desirable place to live. Their arrival has been good news for the cheap hotels and resorts who are ALWAYS fully booked. Backpacker, pursuing this attractive new lifestyle can be seen everywhere, particularly if there is a free Wi-Fi connection available.
I’ve even had them knocking on my door requesting a link to my Wi-Fi which they want to use while spending their day on our private beach in front of my house. The cheek of it!
I have spoken to MANY of them, and generally, they have completed their daily work, and generated enough income to keep them fed and travelling in just a couple of hours each and every day.
Think about that!
I suppose, I am one of the original digital nomads. I have generated my income from writing for a number of years. What I love about it is I can work anywhere in the world I have a table to write on, and the occasional access to the Internet.
I’m now retired, or am I?
I love my work so much because it provides fulfilment and makes me happy. I’m up with the sun (usually seven days a week) and work and write till lunchtime when my working day is over, and it’s time to play.
I can’t think of a better way of spending my day.
If you want to call me a crazy workaholic, go ahead!
EVERYTHING is possible. Just think out-of-the-box, and right out of your comfort zone.
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Will I even be able to afford to retire before I die?
“When I believed I COULDN’T, my life was slow and uneventful. I DIDN’T even try, I was slowly stagnating. Until I reached a threshold, and had enough! I decided to believe I could, and suddenly the magic in my life, began to happen. Self belief is an ESSENTIAL element for success and happiness!”
Embrace this simple thinking and advance.
If you’re prepared to make changes in you and your life! Below, you’ll find a simple solution to the above problem.
Let’s start off on the same page.
The definition of madness is continuing to do the same thing while expecting a DIFFERENT outcome!
Unfortunately, although almost everyone knows this, MOST still FAIL to do anything about it! They’ll nod their heads and mentally agree, and then do NOTHING.
How about you?
Are you a winner or loser in life? The choice is yours!
Success begins with ACTION!
Building momentum requires action, generally LOTS of action and energy to get your ball of potential rolling. When it’s moving, EVERYTHING begins to get easier.
It’s even something you can get started upon in your spare time.
However, it does require a starting point, and there are many. I will provide you with one which is tried, time-tested, and proven to work, EVERY TIME.
Whatever your present circumstances or position in life, unless you’re serving a life sentence in prison, or have a terminal illness, etc. You can quite dramatically begin improving your circumstances by starting TODAY, and it doesn’t have to cost a penny.
Begin by improving your thoughts.
Although most people will mentally deny it, they have terrible thought processes. They spend more time contemplating what they can’t do than what they can. This is very much a flock mentality, and 80% of the world’s population think the same way, and this is what makes them unlikely to change or advance in life.
The elite 5% of successful achievers rarely have doubts. They decide what they want to achieve and 100% belive they will be successful. They never let doubt or lack of intention sap their energy.
Believe in yourself!
Start thinking positively and finding ways around the roadblocks you presently see as problems. There is ALWAYS a way around EVERY problem, usually MANY WAYS, so never give up.
If you stick with it and practice what I will share below, you can literally think your way to success, and a far improved lifestyle. SERIOUSLY!
But you have to do make a solemn promise that once you started, you won’t give up! Only at the end of your lifetime will you be relieved of this duty. I hope we have a deal?
Failure, and overcoming it, is simply part of success.
One hundred and forty years ago, the inventor, Thomas Edison, created the first commercial electric light bulb which literally changed our lives today. He believed in himself, and refused to give up even though he had more than 1,000 failures before he succeeded! If you want to learn more, just click here!
Stop waiting for opportunities to come your way, but instead, create or find your own. Everyone wants an opportunity, and 99% of people wait in the wrong places.
So where should I look?
SIMPLE!
Every problem in life contains the seeds of opportunity. For those who can find a solution to problems which saves time, money and makes doing it, whatever doing it is, easier, fame and fortune is waiting. Or study carefully what has already been done, and then improve upon it, and do it better.
Let’s be realistic.
In every avenue and field of life, there is room for improvement, and problems and a never ending list of challenges are waiting patiently for someone like you to solve them.
What your now reading is an example.
Here I write and share a solution for individuals who think they will never be able to afford to retire. It’s not the ONLY solution, it’s just one which will work for you if you are prepared to adapt your thinking and become creative.
There are no shortage of problems, which means there are no shortage of opportunities either. Just think, one good idea, or solution, could make you a small fortune?
Most people who read this simple wisdom will become excited, but STILL do nothing. Flock mentality, remember!
The solution awaits, but whether you assimilate it is TOTALLY up to you.
Action is always the SOLUTION!
The more action you take, the bigger your input, the greater also your rewards will be.
In the time it has taken me to write this post, countless individuals have found simple solutions to problems and challenges which will make them wealthy, happy, and positively change their lives.
Why shouldn’t this be you?
When you believe you can, then ANYTHING is possible! (Please read that again!)
Change the way you think, begin believing in yourself. When you expect the best to happen, it often does, so never give up. Think positively, be prepared to make mistakes, and learn from them.
A guaranteed solution for success!
Buy yourself a nice thick notebook and every day write your thoughts and observations.
Be careful, although at first this new action might feel strange. It’ll soon become HIGHLY addictive and then the magic will begin to happen.
You’re looking for three new challenges and problems on a daily basis. Get used to finding them and writing them down in detail. They may be unbelievably simple problems and solution, don’t limit yourself and neither should you overlook more humble needs.
Get into the habit of writing them down, and then think and create potential solutions. LOTS of solution. It doesn’t matter how crazy they sound, just get into the habit of doing this. Don’t stop at one, three, five or ten! Come up with as many ideas as you can. Who knows, it may be that twenty-seventh, or your forty-third potential solution that becomes a winner.
Once you can think of no more, then start refining and expanding upon them. By doing this, you’re starting your thought process to a better life, and your own personal salvation.
I promise you, if you take this seriously, searching for problems and their solutions, sooner or later, you will come up with a winner of an idea which will improve your lifestyle. More likely, you will go back to one of your initial thoughts or ideas and have a AHA moment, and suddenly see a way of making it work.
However, if, like most individuals, you get excited and decide to try this new habit and principle for a few days before giving up. It’ll just leave you frustrated. You’ll join the LONG queue of those who tried once, and gave up, rather than a far shorter queue of those who stuck at it and NEVER gave up, and succeeded.
So stay with it!
Let me repeat, you’re beginning to form a new habit, and while I promise you is quite addictive. You’ll start to form your own process, and your level of thought will go to the next level, and suddenly your ability to solve problems, including your own, will become SO much easier.
Remember this.
When you find a man a job or obsession he loves, he’ll never work another day in his life. The same principle also works for women.
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I hate the lack of sunlight!
“However dull and wet it may be where you are right now, please remember, the sun is ALWAYS shining above the clouds, in the daytime anyway. The best solution for a permanently sunny life is adopting a great attitude!”
That being said, I passionately dislike dull, gloomy, damp and cold days! In fact, I’m sure if I was an animal, it would be a lizard. Because just like these cold-blooded creatures, when the sun comes out, I race out to warm up in it. Although I have no interest in staying alive eating insects.
As I write this, I’m in the UK. It’s early August and since I have returned from the Philippine, it’s been the dullest summer I can ever remember, I can’t wait to return to sunnier climes next month!
The sun makes me happy!
If you feel the same way, it seems that you and I have something in common. Not only does a sunny and warm environment make me happy. It also makes me very creative. However, for many years before my children were grown and independent. Before I was free to live where I desired, and spend the darker and colder times of the year basking in tropical heat. I had to shiver it out here.
Actually, it was the lack of sun which I missed the most. Without regular, if not daily, doses of natural sunlight. I found myself feeling SHLUMPY (listless) and unmotivated. I needed the sun, and my natural boost of vitamin D it provides!
My writing and creativity seemed to be put on hold, till the sun came out again anyway. Around this time, I learned of a new word and clinically recognised condition, which was called SAD. Which was an excellent word and description for the way it made some people feel. It stands for seasonal adjustment syndrome, and it became a well-known fact that the lack of sunlight was a justification which caused some individuals to become depressed and moody, etc.
I promise you; I am not a hypochondriac! I already know a few people who are and I am definitely not one of them. However, thirty-five years ago, I bought into this new knowledge in a big way and was delighted to discover there is also a very simple solution to the problem.
A daylight lamp!
SERIOUSLY, the solution was that simple.
I purchased an inexpensive daylight lamp, which sits on my desk next to me. In fact, I have just switched on because here today it’s so dull it’s almost like twilight. Immediately my lamps arrived, I began to use it and my motivation and enthusiasm instantly returned.
Was this a placebo effect?
I seriously don’t think so, and I have been using my daylight lamp ever since. However, I don’t have to keep it switched on all the time. Here in the UK, I have just one on my office desk. This is where I write and spend the first part of my day. Usually, and after it’s been switched on for twenty minutes or so, I feel I have had enough. That internally, my serotonin level, or my enthusiasm batteries, so to speak, seem to be recharged.
Even if this is a placebo effect, the rewards of feeling happy and productive are wonderful compared to the alternative, and the inexpensive cost of the lamp.
Now you have two solutions to sunlight happiness.
Invest into a daylight lamp, which I can thoroughly recommend.
Or, move away to sunnier, preferably tropical climate. In the Philippines, my winter home, its ALWAYS warm, and living on the beach means the weather changes quickly. Even though there are times when it rains heavily, I never have to wait long for the sun to return and perform its magic on my levels of happiness and creativity.
I use both of these solutions, and can promise you, investing in a daylight lamp is far cheaper than buying a second home in the tropics.
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Inactivity is not good for you!
“Most individuals seem to take good health for granted. Until they don’t have it anymore, then, they would do anything to get it back! WHY wait?”
What follows is NOT a moan, but a very valid observation and ongoing painful personal experience that you will do well not to imitate in your life.
I have ALWAYS eaten too much and moved too little.
As a result, obesity has always been my enemy and my shadow. When I was younger, although constantly overweight, I was quick and fit because I did lots of exercise.
Then I felt great.
I remember well the happiness and feelings of achievement from my sports and exercise. The levels of adrenaline it generated in my body. I felt really good.
Adrenaline seems to be a wonder drug when it comes to happiness, so I thoroughly recommend you encourage it by adopting a sport or activity you enjoy, and then sweating at it on a daily basis.
I may be preaching to the already converted, but if I’m not, give it a go and see how much happier you feel with high-level regular exercise. It will improve so many aspects of your life, including your sleep.
As I got older and my lifestyle became less active, my brain was expected to run a daily marathon while my body slouched along behind. This is one of the drawbacks of being a writer. The muscles in my brain and fingers are superbly fit. While some people get corns on their feet, writers have the potential to get them on their bum.
However, I am totally responsible.
I could ALWAYS find the time to exercise (if I had wanted!), but made excuses why didn’t, which is something I am excellent at. I chose to not think about the consequences which we know are never far away, and that eventually life catches up.
I was fine and dandy until my mid 40s when type II diabetes came knocking on the door. Unfortunately, (and I hope frightening you?) diabetes, like old age, doesn’t come alone. Mine came with a long string and variety of NASTY ailments which had to be treated, and now provide pain and problems. Don’t take my word for it. Just click here to see some of the MILDER acquaintances of this horrible condition. There are many that are far nastier lurking in the shadows.
Then my joints began to hurt, particularly my knees. I could write a book about it, especially climbing stairs. Now, at sixty-seven years young I never run, I can’t, my feet give me too much pain, and so do my knees.
Now, I’ve learned I MUST exercise on a daily basis, but it’s far harder than it was in the past, and much less pleasurable.
I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me, I just want my simple story to be a lesson to be learned from.
Get into the habit of exercising regularly. Stay active and find sports and activities you enjoy and make you sweat.
You CAN find time!!!!!
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Drinking and drugs will destroy your life!
…and may even kill you?
“Life is a beautiful thing. The challenges and problems it provides on a daily basis are a strong stimulant for those who embrace them. They come packed with possibilities and true pleasures, for those STRONG enough and choose to encounter and convert them into success! Will it be you?”
Sorry, this is another justified warning, and a HUGE cause of unhappiness and misery. It’s an obvious one which we all know about.
DRUGS and ALCOHOL are quicksand trap which is waiting patiently to catch you, so be aware.
Alcohol, used in moderation for recreation purposes can be an enjoyable thing. But for some, it becomes a dark place from which there is no return. You know this already. You also know the same of drugs, you have been warned.
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Knowing what to do!
…and still not doing it!
“In the same way, you can lead a horse to water, but you can never make him drink. Most individual already know what makes them UNHAPPY, and how to reverse it. It’s their mental capacity, which is their problem, and right now, too weak to do anything about it!”
To conclude
A fulfilling and happy life awaits you!
It’s there for the taking, by anyone, so why shouldn’t it be you? If you thought that there were any secrets to success, you now have the BIG ones.
What are you going to do with them?
Perhaps what follows will put it into perspective for you?
In life, there are just three kinds of people!
You decide in which category you want to reside?
The Players!
These are the top 5% of our society, and they are not difficult to identify. They are the leaders, role models and entrepreneurs, etc. They decide what it is they want to achieve, then they make it happen. They don’t wait for opportunities which may, or MAY NOT, occur. They FOCUS 100% of their effort on making their own dreams become a reality. They rarely fail because they know there is ALWAYS a way, in fact, MANY WAYS, of making almost anything happen. Players are tenacious and NEVER give up. They live envied lifestyles and generally they live their lives on their terms.
The Watchers.
This second group account for approximately 15% of our population and are mainly managers and subservient personnel with jobs working at fulfilling the DREAMS of others. They have HUGE ASPIRATION in life, and watch the players carefully, waiting to grab ANY opportunities which happen to come their way. They study carefully, learning what they can replicate. A FEW will go on to become players, MOST will go no further! They are not prepared to take calculated risk, or make and learn from mistakes like the players who embrace them and see the occasional failure as a part of winning.
The Flock.
Accounting for approximately 80% of our population, they are the largest group and society of individuals who class themselves as normal, and do not want to stand out. Rather than risk being called different, and sharing their opinions, they prefer to be alike and blend in. While players make it happen and watchers don’t let them out of their sight. The flock generally wonder WHAT HAPPENED? They pay far less attention to living their lives on their own terms. This group live far less organised and carefree lives. They hope for the best in all things, rather than taking the responsibility for putting their life in the fast lane.
YOU DECIDE!
Let me repeat, you choose which of these three categories in which to settle and occupy? Regardless of your present circumstances, sex, age and present financial position, the ONLY PERSON holding you back is YOU!
Ten years ago, a high percentage of the people who today I identify as players were starting out with ZILCH! NOTHING except the same prospects as you now have. With hard work, and using the tips, motivation and technique which await you in my newsletter and regular email. You also can make the magic begin to happen.